ideas. thoughts. sharing.

As I’ve written here before, one thing I believe quite firmly is that we’re sold a lie that through changing our appearance, we can change our lives. That if only we lost weight, had “better” hair, the “right” clothes, we’d be able to access that certain, indefinable magic we’re convinced the people who do have that aesthetic possess.

I’ve been speaking with women who do have that magic - that capacity to make amazing things happen to them - and unsurprisingly, what I’ve found is that it isn’t about what you wear or how you look at all. Much of your capacity to make magic comes from your openness to it: the frequency and vigor with which you throw yourself into new situations, your expectation that the people around you will be good rather than bad, your ability to spot a good opportunity and make the most of it.